Blog #4 Analysis of Dickens word choice.

I believe that Dickens used this form of righting to keep you tuned in to the writing. He made you believe that you didn't know what was going to happen next. Dickens had the ghost not wanting to see her just yet, he told Lorry how it would kill him if he saw her too soon. (18) The spirit was talking about how he was buried alive. Lorry was shocked to hear that he had abandoned all hope in being found or of freeing himself from the grave. Lorry asked how long he was in the grave and he replied, "A long time" (18). YOu then find out the ghost was in the grave for eighteen years. I think Dickens put this in the novel because of how it would make people think and connect to the ghost, by thinking to themselves what if that was me in that guys position, that would be terrible. Which now he has a reputation with all the readers that he went through a great trauma. Dickens wrote "Sometimes, it was given in a tender rain of tears" (18). When I read this sentence I thought it was a pretty deep sentence and i really liked, this passage was so deep and sentimental and I greatly enjoyed how he described how he was feeling. Towards the end of the passage, The ghost stated, "I don't know her, i don't understand." (18). I think that the ghost saying this is to foreshadow the meeting of Lucy and Dr. Monette, and how at first he doesn't recognize her the first time he meets her.

Why is it difficult not to care about what others think of you? Do we control the way other people see and think about us?

Many people may say bad things about you in your life. But really that doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is what you think about yourself. We care what they say because we always want to be liked by others. If you know you are liked by someone it allows you to open up to that person and possible create a great friendship with that person. If you know they don't like you then a sense of paranoia is going to creep in because you try to stay away from the person and you make sure you don't say anything that can be taken as offensive. It will add to stress levels because you are always thinking about that person and if they are talking badly about you to someone or if they are spreading rumors, and is not a good feeling to have. We don't really have control of what people think about us because it is their choice to not like something about you as a person or as a friend. They have every right to not like me, if i did something to make them think bad of me then i deserve what ever they think, but I will try and talk to them about it and see if i can clarify why I did what I did and see if i can show that I'm not such a bad guy after all. If some one were to come and tell me that they don't like me straight to my face, i wouldn't care, if they don't like me thats their problem they probably weren't that important anyway so I end up losing nothing. For me it is very easy not to care about what others think about me, because I have more important things to worry about.